When riding just focus on relaxing and the clarity of your communication with your horse. Take the time to enjoy your horse, don’t get too carried away with goals and improvements.
Have a shorter ride, scratch them more and give them cuddles after your ride and appreciate the time together.
This will help you and your training goals will come in time but your horse will try harder for you because you took the time to listen, enjoy, love and not be so bossy to them.
Greedy riders make anxious horses.
Think about it this way, if you have a friend who only wants the most from you every time you see them aren’t you going to wonder what the catch is every time you see their call? You grow to expect to be treated one way after it happens so many times and creates a pattern. Break that pattern and remember to be compassionate and slowing things down is always a good break from schooling and training.